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The War

There are times when we lose our inner balance. We are broken and we need to be fixed. We sometimes try to find help within others, we reach out but what they offer is not enough to get us back up on track. We need to  fight too. We need to have the will to change what we feel. We need to step back and analyse. Look deep inside our hearts and minds and see what’s behind it all, what is causing all that, and more important – why? We’re half way there, as soon as we find the answer to the last question. But we need to be true to ourselves. We need to dig well, deep inside and find the real motive for feeling that way.

I was just about to say that the rest is easy. That we just need to figure out a way out and make it happen.

But the truth is that it is never easy. No matter how well-determined you are, it’s never easy to fight against yourself. ‘Cause in the end, that’s what you have to do. You have to fight that self that tells you that all is lost and it will never be as good as it was before. You need to have the power to hold your position no matter what arguments your other self brings. You need to be positive that you will get over it because you are strong and because you WANT to get over it.

You need to focus on the good aspects of your life and everything that happened and leave aside the negative ones for the time being. You need to surround yourself with love, peace,  light, joy and laughter. They are easier to find than you would expect it.

So have you ever felt lost and alone? Have you ever felt that there was no tomorrow? No hope? No reason to go on?

Well, I have. And I fought hard, each time. And I got back on my feet. I never lost a battle. But  my war is not over. What about yours?

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Becoming a Parent

There are so many books on becoming a parent, so many articles, blogs, websites… They all tell you what to do or what not to do no matter the age of your baby.  I wonder how many books there are for children with problems. How many books tell you to stay calm and advise on how to react when you find out that your unborn baby will have problems? How do future parents handle that?

The news that your baby has problems (no matter the nature of these problems) can be devastating. You keep asking yourself what you did wrong, what could have been better… Was it the time you were cold this winter? Was it when you were playing with our dog or cat? Was it the stress at the office? Was it the time you let her carry one bag, instead of you carrying them all 10? What do you do when the doctors say you cannot help your baby in any way, you just have to wait and see?

I’ll tell you… You keep hoping. You get a second opinion, you try the impossible. Nothing can get you ready for something like this.

Even when everyone tells you to stop hoping, the light of hope is inside you… you’re a parent and nothing will change that.